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Every man is not expecting his girl to be a perfect one. He knows that she will have a certain amount of imperfections. He understands that there are certain things she has to work on too. But what are the major turn-offs for men?
Here at Viral Strange, we listed 22 real major turn-offs for men:
- 1. Being too nagger
- 2. When you are overly jealous for no reason at all
- 3. Being too dramatic
- 4. Not allowing him to be with his friends
- 5. When you keep on reminding him of his mistakes from the past
- 6. Playing mind games with him
- 7. Making him feel jealous to get his attention
- 8. Being unhygienic
- 9. Being too judgmental
- 10. Being fond of gossip
- 11. Being too self-centered
- 12. When you are being too loud
- 13. Does not have basic etiquette
- 14. When you are materialistic and demanding
- 15. Dishonesty
- 16. When you don’t have plans for yourself
- 17. Being too attention seeker
- 18. Being emotionally unstable
- 19. Being insecure with other girls
- 20. Being too fickle-minded
- 21. When you cannot get along with the important persons of his life
- 22. Being too serious on everything
1. Being too nagger
He understands when you want to remind him of certain things, but do not overdo it. Nagging at him will make him feel that you do not trust him. Nagging does not help at all. You can actually talk to him in a good manner when the emotions are not raging anymore.
2. When you are overly jealous for no reason at all
Feeling jealous is normal in a relationship. There are moments when you feel like you are not the priority anymore. But you have to understand that being too jealous only adds more drama to the relationship. If he did not do anything wrong, then do not act that way. He did choose you for a reason, so stop being too dramatic.
3. Being too dramatic
It is understandable that you have different ways on coping with things. But it is never okay when you come up with stories on your head just because you see him with his close friend talking. It is a different story when you try to throw tantrums because you feel that he does not love you anymore.
4. Not allowing him to be with his friends
Remember that your boyfriend also has a life of his own. You do not have to restrict him from seeing his friends. He is already old enough to know his responsibilities in life. He needs time with his friends to unwind too. It is his life to decide on things. You are not his only world. You are just a part of it.
5. When you keep on reminding him of his mistakes from the past
You have the right to be upset about him when he did something wrong again. You should feel bad about it. But you do not have to keep on reminding him about his past mistakes. Allow people to grow and learn from their mistakes.
6. Playing mind games with him
Indeed, there is always perfect timing to say how you feel to your boyfriend, but you should consider his feelings too. What girls will never understand is that boys do not read minds. Be mature about everything. Instead of giving him hints, tell him what you want. You have to tell him how you feel because that is the most effective way to communicate.
7. Making him feel jealous to get his attention
As men are not into mind games, you really have to be open with them. You do not have to make him feel jealous just for him to notice you. Maybe he’s busy with other important things too. You should know that you can’t always be the priority.
8. Being unhygienic
We do not like someone who smells bad when we kiss and hug them. It makes us feel uncomfortable when someone does not have good hygiene practice. Cuddling with someone who smells like perfume feels amazing.
9. Being too judgmental
While we have opinions for other people, men do not like girls who talk about other people. Men are of few words by nature. They do not like girls who meddle with other people’s lives.
10. Being fond of gossip
It is a major turn-off for men when you gossip about other people. You do not know about the real story, so it is best to keep everything to yourself. It would be best to focus on yourself and growth.
11. Being too self-centered
It is a big turn-off for men when you keep talking about yourself all the time. The world does not revolve around you at all. Men dislike it when you do not wait for them to appreciate you.
12. When you are being too loud
Men generally dislike women who do not know how to compose themselves, most especially in public. They do not like those who do not know how to behave. Men like women who can show class and finesse.
13. Does not have basic etiquette
It is a big red flag for men when you do not have the right manners. When you are rude to other people, that is a turn- off for them. They do not expect a perfect woman, but having the right attitude is a big factor.
14. When you are materialistic and demanding
Men despise women who demand material things to them. They are not a cash cow for you to do that. They have needs for themselves too. A man would appreciate a woman who does work hard to afford the things that she wants.
15. Dishonesty
Men love women who can be really honest with them. They dislike women who lie to them to save their ass. They would appreciate you to be transparent with them no matter what.
16. When you don’t have plans for yourself
Men love women who have goals for themselves. They love women who do something for their dreams. They love women who have the drive to achieve greater things in life. For them, it is a major turn-off when you cannot do something for yourself without depending on other people.
17. Being too attention seeker
Men do not like women who are too clingy to them. They do not like when someone wants their attention all the time. They totally hate it when their partners keep on asking where they are. They dislike it when you want updates from time to time when they are away to address important matters.
18. Being emotionally unstable
Men dislike women with trust issues. Women who can’t handle their emotions very well is a turn-off for them. They are not your therapist to make you feel better about yourself all the time. You have to be emotionally prepared when you engage in a relationship.
19. Being insecure with other girls
Any man will not like an insecure woman. If someone does not feel secure with herself, that will create issues in the relationship. If you are battling issues with yourself, how can you give the best version of yourself to someone?
20. Being too fickle-minded
Men do not like when you are very indecisive on things. You have to make up your mind most especially if you are asking for their time and help. They dislike when you cancel plans last minute, and they already prepare for it.
21. When you cannot get along with the important persons of his life
If you can’t get along with his friends and family, that is a turn-off for him. If he wants to settle down with you, it will not work if you can’t have a good relationship with them. Men want peace in the family.
22. Being too serious on everything
Men want to have chill and fun sometimes. They hate it when you can’t take a joke. They feel bad if you can’t get along with them and poke fun with each other. You have to loosen up a bit because life is too short, making everything a big deal.
Men know that you have flaws because they are imperfect like you too. But you have to work on making yourself better. You have to change the ways that are not good for your growth. Always be better than yesterday.
First of all I would like to address that you’ve made several mistakes on this list, but there are 3 big ones that really irritates me. I will start this of by saying that no one can help if they are indecisive, emotionally unstable ( unless you mean in an abusive manner ), and insecure.
There is a reason for everything and if your s/o can’t stand you being emotionally unstable, insecure, and indecisive then they are NOT the one for you.
Those were just 3 of your mistakes on these articles, if someone loves you they love all your flaws and understands how and why you act the way you do.
I mean women have much higher expectations of men and don’t you dare tell me otherwise. Men expect little from women and if y’all still got a problem with that then maybe you should not get into a relationship in the first place.
All of the items on this list are just minimums. Yes, everyone has bad days, but most days you should be emotionally stable, secure, and at least somewhat decisive. That’s just called being an adult.
#18 I’d say I have at times but I PASS ALL
It didn’t say things that make men not love you anymore. It says major turnoffs .However, if a person is so unstable that they act like a nut case half the time, threatening suicide etc, no amount of love will foster that relationship.. that is just pure manipulation and I would find the quickest exit. An emotionally unstable person is toxic and extremely draining of everything you have.
No. I think as adults we need to evaluate ourselves and our flaws and work on the bettering of ourselves and work on fixing those flaws. Nobody should “love all of your flaws” or take you as you are and put up with your crap. We are adults not children. If you know you have toxic behaviors or patterns, work on them. You wouldn’t want to babysit another adult just because that’s how “they are”. That is a toxic mentality. If you aren’t Whole an Healed, then the last thing on your mind should be a relationship. If you cannot offer another human a WHOLE and HEALED version of yourself, why would you even thinking about offering yourself to another human? Don’t be a problem for another person to fix, go love and fix yourself first
It reminds me of that country song. Shania Twain. I like her, but that one song .. no. And if she’s really like that I wouldn’t like her in real life. She sings. Any man of mine has got to tow that line. Oh really? So you want him to be at your beck and call all the time but you don’t want to reciprocate? And it’s okay for you to be late, oh really? So he’s got nothing to do but sit there and wait for you for hours to fix yourself, not be satisfied and fix yourself again, and then call and say oh I’ve gotta wash my hair. Do that to me once, I might forgive you the second time I’ve got to be starting to get pissed. The third time, it’s adios baby you don’t know what you just lost.
Nobody cares. 😉
I think its funny that most of the women who commented are taking this super personally and saying its wrong or that it should apply to men and women. Women are extremely picky, judgemental, and have super high expectations, but when someone makes a list like this all of a sudden its a bad thing. I think men are men, and they like what they like and don’t what they dont, if you have an issue or disagree with it that’s your prerogative, but that doesn’t change how men operate. Personally, I don’t think there’s anything wrong with this list, wanting someone who is decisive and can speak up for themself without always deferring is a good thing. As is someone who is secure in themself, allows their partner to have their own life and respects the people in it. And if someone is experiencing mental health issues that prevent them from being stable or having emotional rationality or balance and equanimity they probably should take care of that before dating because it will only exacerbate that it, not fix it, no matter how accepting or loving the other person is.
This quite literally goes both ways, but is also very unrealistic, because no person hasn’t got any of this
If a man can’t handle a woman being who she is, he isn’t a man. Second, all of this is actually pretty oppressive and sexust with strong overtines of misogyn.. To place demands on what a woman has to be, is ridiculous. Especially when looking at the statistics in contrast. Ya’ll want to put restrictions on who a woman is, while women just want men to stop killing, raping, harassing and abusing us. Get your crap together.
So what this article is saying is that men want a another man. They want to have sex with women but an actual relationship with a man. Thanks for clearing it up.
And this is why relationships are doomed because of girls lkke yourself with this entitled bs mentality 🙂
#19 what if by chance the woman you are most insecure about just so happens to be his former crush who he also refuses to eliminate from his, daily life even tho you are married to him valso is it ok for him to flirt (including complumenting her on how beautiful she is and asking for nudes) with other women
divorce the fool
Yes. If your Married and hes asking another broad for nudes… that’s cheating to me. Even more so because he won’t delete her. Byyyeeee 👋🏼 Some men are trash.
I hope that by now, you have come to your senses and left this man. What he has done is exceedingly disrespectful to you. If you allow it to continue, you are disrespecting yourself. Please don’t do that…you are worthy of far more, I’m sure.
true
its good to be with partner had brood brain and big heart
well give time and space to let each other learn each other short coming, no one is perfect but can learn and be the best for hi/her… take a time to give and receive short and flaws are in but growing be always on both party
We hate these things about men too
But let’s be honest, women should be perfect, but men can cheat, lie, blame women for their disgusting actions and get on with it and they still feel superior. A man, who doesn’t accept a woman with all her pluses and minuses, is simply weak mamma’s boy who wants everything to be ready for him, so he wouldn’t need to do anything himself.
But let’s be honest, women should be perfect, but men can cheat, lie and get on with it by blaming imprefect women for their actions and they still feel superior. A man, who doesn’t accept a woman with all her pluses and minuses, is simply weak mamma’s boy who wants everything to be ready for him, so he wouldn’t need to do anything himself.
Every word I kept thinking a dude write this no way is any of this right he sounds like a guy who had had a heartbreak and can’t handle relationships. Bro get your life together and be ready to be alone for ever lmao wtf did u just read
The article was titled turn offs for men so yeah it was written by a man it would be ridiculous if a woman wrote it but this is just 1 man’s opinion everybody is different he doesn’t speak for all of man kind ladies.
This article sounds like it’s been written by a guy who’s had a bad experience and is throwing a tantrum 😅
Just remember relationships are 2 way streets. Men do all the things listed here too
Was thinking the same here too 😄
This goes for MEN as well!!
It seems to me that these men forget that they act like most of this or cause females to feel these ways . Not all men I give you that but most. We are not born perfect and it’s hard enough to embrace yourself for all your faults but reading this made me feel like I have to be bipolar to fill these requirements. Let’s be real most of this is BS and if a relationship had healthy boundaries and open communication none of this is necessary.
This article should be made for men and women. We as women dont like some of these exact same attributes when dating men. And to be honest i as a woman dont like a man who thinks like this. As one lady had posted…. If a man cant love you inspite of your flaws they are not the man for you. I have anxiety issues, self esteem issues and indecisive issues as well and thats not something i can change for anyone. Your article is trash and offensive to women and men.
First of all, these rules apply to both sexes. Women feel the same way about all of these things.
Second, for many women, feeling insecure and having trust issues almost always stems from the way she has been treated by another man / men in the past. Any new partner should respect that she will take time to learn to trust and they must also not give her reason not to! (For instance, by being open and not behaving sneakily). This again works both ways.
I feel like although there are valid points in this article, it’s an outdated point of view that should be left in the 50’s. Times have changed and women have careers too. They cannot be home to have dinner on the table ready for when a man gets home. They cannot and should not be the only ones ‘knowing how to behave’ and should be allowed to feel a little jealous if their man spends too much time with the boys. And vice versa. Relationships are partnerships. Partnerships are 50/50
The pot can’t call the kettle black so oh well!
This should be renamed “22 real major turn-offs for anyone” it’s not just women who do shit like this, men do it too, some though like Sydney above said can’t be helped in the way of just not doing it as it’s more to do with mental health and issues from past experiences. Thankfully I do have a very supportive husband who understands my mental health and understands when I’m struggling i may say or do things that seam like I’m blaming him or he’s corseing it but it’s not the case, and he knows if he has a dip in he’s own mental health (witch he has at times) I will support him too. If someone can’t be there for you at your worse then they don’t deserve to be there for you at your best.
lol just wait till the women make one about what turns us off 🥴
Every woman should read this and have a really good laugh. It sound like most men I’ve been in a relationship with. Hence why I will stay single
Same here. I was laughing so hard I almost cried 😂
No. I think as adults we need to evaluate ourselves and our flaws and work on the bettering of ourselves and work on fixing those flaws. Nobody should “love all of your flaws” or take you as you are and put up with your crap. We are adults not children. If you know you have toxic behaviors or patterns, work on them. You wouldn’t want to babysit another adult just because that’s how “they are”. That is a toxic mentality. If you aren’t Whole an Healed, then the last thing on your mind should be a relationship. If you cannot offer another human a WHOLE and HEALED version of yourself, why would you even thinking about offering yourself to another human? Don’t be a problem for another person to fix, go love and fix yourself first
Well said.
Oh men have only 22, there are millions of stuffs that turn off women. But she have to live with him forever.
Millions of things is too much. It sounds like you think women hate everything. Being in a negative mood all the time is certainly not good for your relationships.
Wow…as that one song says “This ain’t build a bitch” everyone has flaws if you can’t accept ours then yours are invalid and unwanted as well. We’re not a world of Barbie and Ken living perfect
Who wrote this .. i nearly burst out laughing but held it in lol
Some of these apply to men too not just women.
And this is what’s wrong with women, they try to make a comparison with anything they can. I’m sure a lot of these apply to men but that’s not what this post was about. Absolute geniuses.
Ohh thats what is wrong with us??? Cmon now you know we are all different right?? We as a group are female but we don’t have a hive mind just so we are clear. So that may need to be said like this is what is wrong with women who think this certain way. We are all unique snowflakes or whatever you know everyone is different.
Feel the same because my ex does all that at least not my ex yet but I’ve been through all that now I wanted to be my ex I’m not sure. But it applies more to women than to men too about the same she’s right about the same. I’m deciding whether I want to see him or not so I’m really not seeing him barely hear from him on the phone but he says he still loves me huh after what I’ve been through and it didn’t work forget it I tried all that I grew up to know what real love is now and that wasn’t one of them amen.
Every Woman should read this!
And every man should take note this is all true for women too – equal turn off for many of these
Ha Ha!!! I’m surprised that you didn’t say every woman should read it twice and maybe even daily !!! Jk
Also, a few other things…being punctual, on a schedule. IF the lady does cook often, a man tends to expect her come home for dinner. Men & Women both like to be organized on alotta things like clothing put where they can find what they need, pencil & paper…now in my experience I leave my guys tools alone but I try to be mindful as to where he places em in case he forgets where a hammer or a certain wreck or socket may be. Anywho, Ain’t love grand. Haha..Love: 1 of the most painful pleasures & pleasurable pains!
So in short they want a perfect woman 🥴. And still talks about nobody is perfect🤮
Well im far from perfect but i dont do any of these…
I mostly think like a guy though, i dont like my friends to be this way neither..
But thinking like a guy make guys see you like a “bro”, not a girlfriend..
I had boyfriends tell me I didn’t make them feel “special” enough.. I started calling them princess afterwards.. i think we got the roles inverted, maybe I AM the guy….
BUT I do confirm.. all of the above are MAJOR turn offs from any gender actually.
So in short they want a perfect woman 🥴.