Telha
When Ruby’s daughter, Cindy, began mentioning a “friend” named William, Ruby initially thought it was someone she knew.
Ruby had a close-knit family growing up. As an only child, her bond with her parents was incredibly strong. They attended every one of her field hockey games and parent-teacher meetings, always cheering her on.
Even during college, they’d often visit, bringing homemade meals that made Ruby feel loved. But when her father passed away, Ruby’s world was forever altered.
Ruby now had her own family—a loving husband, Dean, and their six-year-old daughter, Cindy. Since her father’s passing, Ruby noticed that her once-spirited mother wasn’t the same.
Once lively and creative, her mother seemed to lose her spark, becoming quieter and more withdrawn. She clung to Cindy in a way that felt like she was trying to fill a void.
Ruby’s mom often took Cindy on outings, and they usually had a good time. But recently, Ruby noticed that Cindy would come home upset and unusually quiet after these visits, which left Ruby feeling uneasy.
Not wanting to jump to conclusions, she decided to gently ask Cindy about it one afternoon while they were baking cupcakes together.
“Why do you cry when Grandma brings you back? Did something happen?” Ruby asked gently, stirring the batter.
Cindy hesitated before responding, “It’s because of Grandma’s friend. He’s always there.”
“Which friend?” Ruby asked, surprised. “Grandma usually doesn’t have anyone else with her.”
Cindy smiled a little, recalling a happy moment. “Grandma asks me to say hi to William before we eat. Who’s William, Mommy?”
The name hit Ruby deeply—William was her father’s name. Trying to stay calm, she said, “Oh, that’s okay, sweetie. Let’s finish these cupcakes.” But her mind was racing with concern.
The next day, leaving Cindy and Dean to watch some movies, Ruby went to visit her mother. She needed answers.
When Ruby brought up Cindy’s mention of William, her mother’s eyes welled up. “I’m sorry, Ruby,” she said quietly. “I didn’t mean to upset Cindy.”
“Upset her? What’s happening, Mom?” Ruby asked, her worry growing.
Her mother took Ruby’s hand, her voice trembling. “I still feel your dad’s presence.
Talking about him helped me cope with the loneliness. I didn’t realize I was doing it around Cindy. I didn’t mean to confuse or frighten her.”
Ruby’s heart ached for her mother. She too had struggled with the loss, but hadn’t realized the depth of her mom’s grief.
“I know you miss him,” Ruby said softly, “but Cindy doesn’t understand. She’s just a little girl, and this is confusing for her.”
They spent hours reminiscing about Ruby’s father, sharing memories over coffee and donuts. Ruby suggested her mom gently explain things to Cindy, so she wouldn’t be afraid.
Her mom agreed, understanding that while remembering her husband brought comfort, Cindy wasn’t old enough to grasp it.
In the weeks that followed, Ruby’s mom spoke openly to Cindy, helping her understand that Grandpa William wasn’t a ghost or an imaginary friend, but a cherished memory.
She even started seeing a therapist to help process her grief. Her mood brightened, and she returned to painting—a hobby she and Cindy enjoyed together.
Soon, Cindy was happily spending time with her grandma again.
As a family, they found a path to healing. Ruby’s mom continued to talk to her father, but in private, and together, they began moving forward stronger than before.
