Igli Ismolli
As we come to life one of the most important things to do is to find a suitable partner that you love to create a family. But sometimes this big step of our life doesn’t go as we planned or imagined it to be. In every four marriages, one intends to fail and this is a fact that not everybody can find the right partner or the ”love of life”.
But even after dark comes to light and you don’t need to get upset too much or put all the blame on yourself. Sometimes bad things happen or are supposed to happen and you can do nothing about it. The only thing you can do is push forward for a better life and a healthier mind and body.
We at Viral Strange are going to list some reasons why divorce is better than an unhealthy relationship and marriage.
1. Treat And Save Energy For Yourself
Sometimes your partner can be oppressive and this takes a great toll on your mental health. You start to forget what you are or what you deserve. You forget about the things that made you happy and the things you loved to do before. Stop this immediately. How much do you think you can go without breaking yourself?
Your partner is meant to be your greatest supporter, not your dictator. That’s why divorce is better than living in this kind of marriage.
2. After All You Will Start Looking For ”The Right One”
After divorce, nothing is finished. Life continues and many great things are waiting for you out there. After all, this means you may encounter the right partner. The one that will make you happy and make you start living again.
This new partner can save you from the dark times and the suffocating marriage you have been through. So, start going out there and interacting with other people to create new relations and prosper.
3. Save Your Children From a Bad Experience And Environment
A bad and unhealthy relationship is also a not-so-great environment for your children to be raised as they should because they are going to be exposed to debates, arguments, and maybe not-so-pleasant other things.
They are going to see things that are not good to be seen by them, and it will be causing psychological trauma for the kids that they may not overcome later in life. So, try to keep your kids out of this.
4. You Will Start To Feel Happier
Imagine what damage living in constant pain and psychological pressure can do to you and your happiness.
In most toxic marriages, after divorce, is observed that the happiness index is rising because after ending a bad relationship you have more free time to do things that you couldn’t do before. You can start following your dreams, your hobbies, and pursuing happiness.
5. You Will Start To Care About You Looking
A new thing to explore would be a relief after a bad divorce because you have more time to take care of yourself. Starting a diet maybe or starting a workout is great for your look.
Some even start to spend more on stylish clothing, body and skin care, and everything you like or love to do because you have more time and energy to take care of yourself.
6. Your health might improve
When being in a bad marriage, your health will worsen. An unhappy and unhealthy marriage will be physically damaging because of the stress.
Getting a divorce will help you improve your health. It will lower the risk of heart disease, cancer, or having a low immune system.
7. Have a better retirement
A divorce might help you get on track with your career. It will help you have more earnings and larger contributions to your retirement account.
There is no such thing as a perfect marriage. You have to work at it. But marriage is not something you can just walk away from just because you are unhappy. That’s why before you say “I do” you need to make sure it is what you really want to do. Marriage is a lifelong commitment. If you have any doubt in your mind about taking those vows, just don’t do it. In the Bible, in Malachi 2: 16, God says I hate divorce. Also in the Bible, Jesus said in Matt. 5:32 “If anyone divorces his wife except for marital unfaithfulness he commits adultery.” I have been married to my wife for 27 years. It hasn’t always been a bed of roses. We’ve had are ups and we’ve had are downs, but we’ve always worked through it. You just have to keep the lines of communication open. It is give and take. Before you get married just pray that God will bless you with the right spouse. If you are currently married and are having difficulties pray to God that he will help you get through it. As you can probably tell, I am a Christian. My wife is also a Christian. And yes! Christian have problems too. However, In our marriage we’ve learned to pray and trust in Jesus. Amen!
I agree with you whole heartedly. But some folks are followers of Jesus Christ. And do not know scripture and how our Father truly feels about divorce: hatred is murder to God. Im glad you posted the scripture for those who can look it up. And don’t complain at your spouse, PRAY for them. And watch God do a miracle in them. We can’t change anyone. only God and those who want to change. That’s why we are NOT to be unequally yoked. But if you do turn your life to follow Jesus and your spouse does not. We don’t divorce we pray for them and pray for them and live by example.
We followers of Jesus Christ are to show the Love of Christ to all and lead as His ambassadors. Once I turned my toward Jesus our marriage blossomed. A love qas instilled in my heart that No Doubt Jesus. (Cause I didnt even like folks let alone Love them) .
Thank you for sharing!
The bible? What relevance does this have. The Bible and religion is personal to you, please keep that to yourself.
Marriage is not life long……hence divorce. Henry the 8th sorted that out when he headed up the corrupt organisation (the church) that has caused more misery to people over time that probably any other thing in history.
Adam,
It’s interesting to me that you think the Bible has no reference when you share the name of the first human ever created.
But the comment section is open to whatever a person my wish to write.
I have been married and have experienced failed marriages.
I currently married for what will soon be ten years.
Making God the priority in our marriage has been a major reason how we communicate with each other and how we want our marriage to work.
I’m glad for you that you have an invisible and imaginary friend but please keep your religious views to yourself. It is totally not relevant to the subject and very OPPRESSIVE to bother other people with your beliefs that are 2000 years old and written by musty bearded men.
This so called “g0d” hates divorce sounds far too much like your over active imagination. Congratulations on your brainwashed brain cells. That sounds childish as hell. Old g0d was never married so how in the hell does that entity know???????? If that was true then there could NOT be any divorce and there would not be any divorce attorneys. That’s not realistic. The divorce rate is about 40 per cent. Men are from Mars and women are from Venus. They are very different creatures. That’s why they do not get along. Men think women are nothing but mop buckets, cooks and dishwashers and washers and dryers even though women take care of the children. Women get really tired. Then it’s always the womens’ fault that they wound up pregnant. Thank heaven that there are now battered womens’ shelters. And it’s all womens’ fault that they get themselves beaten up.
I happened to me.
This is how people get stuck in abusive marriages and children get raised in toxic households. The fact is that people change as they age. If you don’t, there’s something very wrong that needs to be addressed in therapy. You’re lucky if you stay on the same track but you can simply grow in different directions and there’s nothing wrong with that. It’s mature to be able to walk away from a situation that is making everyone unhappy AFTER trying to fix it with increased communication. Also “Staying together for the kids” is NEVER a good idea, this just creates intergenerational trauma.
Any relationship that makes the people in it unhappy is one that should end, and screw G-d if she has a problem with that (not that I think for a second she does). Sorry not sorry.
😂🤣😂… “She” …🤣😂🤣
After 18 years my husband left me for another woman. It had nothing to do with a lack of trying or keeping my vows. It had nothing to do with my relationship with God. Sometimes a person can do everything right and still end up divorced.
Yes. You are 110% correct and people just have to move on with 0 regret especially when you did nothing wrong, just married a total jerk!! Good luck to you and hope Mr. Right sweeps you off your feet. This to me is just like the people talking about the active drug addict and saying but he/she was raised by wonderful drug free parents. Well it happens, we all have our own way of thinking & no one can change that. Cool read!! Thank you ♧ tss
Love this! Me and my husband have been married for 12 yrs and together for 14! Its been a broken but beautiful gone mad and magical awfully wonderful life!
Yes amen Same with me My husband and I have been married for 23 years and have three young adult children And the same as you said We have had ups and downs and not easy at times but prayer IS the key Trusting God Confessing and believing His word God will bring you through Its about Him Not ourselves anyway He gives you the peace and joy Not outward circumstance. Inner peace in Knowing God will make you feel and look at things different You will be a blessing and affect your family for good It changes your perspective when your focus is right. As a man thinks That he is. Amen
I gave my husband 27years to stop cheating, stop drinking( I couldn’t give the stuff away fast enough) and stop lying to me and my children. He makes over 120k a year but always told us he was broke when or entire monthly house bills are covered in one of 4 weekly checks. For 19 years he’s been telling my children and I he’s broke. I got occasional flowers and whatever he wanted from the adult store. I never watched porn or allowed this stuff but it was the only thing that he grew money in his wallet for. I was raised a Christian as well and I’m against all that is evil. But God uses evil( the least of these) to bring us too him, either by submission,rock bottom, or we sprout wings. But it’s so important to be doing the only job God gave us, which is to brag about HIM and him ONLY! I get pleasure ❤️in letting others know about Jesus( God in flesh) and he did Absolutely everything for us. Honestly, evil makes me cringe, if evil comes around me my skin crawls I get the notion to wanna run and never go back. So this democrat raised guy met me in church and being in church I assume they are republican, so not turning to the left or right I became infatuated with the man (not knowing of the DemoNcrat parents as of yet. Well God had us married and we had 6 children together, 2 each of previous marriages, and 2 together. I thought he was going to get better with time. Long story short he had a feild day disrespecting me. Now he’s doing it to me but I can’t hear it and he’s still doing it to my children. Not around often but when he does come it’s all abusive speech to try and get what he wants. He’s a sex addict, an alcoholic and he lies alot! No one can believe what he says. So my heart hurt in burning nature 247 and the day I yelled NO MORE AND LEFT HIM, MY HEARTACHE DISAPPEARED. VANISHED AND JESUS TOOK IT AND ASKED ME TO WALK WITH HIM AND ITS BEEN BLISS EVER SINCE. SO, WHEN GOD GETS RID OF DIVORCE, AS IT SHOULD BE. THEN DIVORCE WILL DIE, BUT TILL SONS ARE ALL TAUGHT NOT TO DISRESPECT WOMAN, AS GOD TELLS THE MAN, IF YOU MISTREAT HER, HE WONT EVEN LISTEN TO THE MANS PRAYERS, IF HE TREATS HE BADLY. THE WIFE DOES SAVE THE HUSBAND. BUT LETS NOT MAKE IT DIFFICULT FOR HER AS LIFE IS PAINFUL ENOUGH AS IT IS. WE ALL GO THROUGH THE SUFFERINGS OF CHRIST. BUT ENOUGH IS ENOUGH!
Being Democrat or republican has nothing to do with hiw you live your life.. I mean you just have to look at the bunch of lies the GOP and that orange canvas has been spraying since 2014 to know that.
There are plenty of democrats who love God with all their hearts and soul.
Your story is like mine. But I’m very ill. My husband is Narcissistic. Addicted to porn. Could careless about me. I believe the point is like having an affair. We haven’t had sex in over 15 years. And He keeps everything of his private. Especially money. I am a Christian, he told me he was to. Then one day told me it just doesn’t stick? I’m miserable in so many ways. Plus, I’m not getting any younger. He stole all my days. Marries 25 years. He won’t leave. So, I’m going to have to start divorce proceedings. I’m also on disability. He pays for everything.
i completely agree with you on working out your problems and not just walking away or waiting to marry to make sure it is the right move to make.. but there are cases where you marry someone then you see their true selves after because they assume you’re stuck with them since you married and it takes TWO people to make it work… it really sucks, but sometimes one of them don’t want to “work on it” and would rather continue controlling the other and dictating their every move. i am also Christian and i fully believe that God would never want one of his children to suffer their whole life with someone that will not change for the better. i do not believe God would condemn someone for leaving their spouse for a very real and logical reason. the bible was wrote in a time that most men and women cherished their partners.. today.. there are so many people that refuse to grow up and be adults and torment those who try to love them. sometimes you have to leave. but i fully agree that you should exhausted every solution to work it out before jumping to divorce.
It is ideal to stay in marriage but when it is already destroying you and your children, it is really better to live separately. Marriage should be worked out by two people but when only one is cooperating, eventually it will crumble. Living in a stressful environment is more detrimental to the growth of children. Besides, if the spiritually guided spouse is seriously living according to the faith, he/she will preserve his purity.
Man all I see is these divorced women stressed out and is men running through them with ease. Stay married. Yall don’t qualify for the men you want. The man you want just gonna be fun smile and be gone after the season over like Santa Claus. 😁🤷🏿♂️
I’m guessing a divorce lawyer made this article so they get more business lol 😆 😂 most marriages that are bad is because one of them wants to sleep around why get married if your going to get a divorce it makes no sense 🤔 😉 you know how the person is before hand there not going to change because of a piece of paper
I am guessing you have never been married. People do change, and often the don’t reveal their true selves until they are married.
I gave my wife the checkbook… smartest thing I ever did… have everything I’ve ever wanted as a result… 😀 😀 😀
This article is a bunch of crap. There are very few “good divorces”, and those who take the easy way out to find a good marriage will never be in one. Marriage takes work and commitment. If one cannot commit to that in the current marriage, they never will in another.
In any case, we are creatures of habit and character. The person that we fell in love with, married, and divorced, will have the same traits as the one we marry next!
I came from a family of multiple divorces and marriages and know all too well – much more than the twenty something writer of this article does who probably still lives with his parents!
I’ve got a solution! Don’t get married. It’s an archaic practice used to own women anyway. We don’t need them.
I was in a bad marriage for over10 years.. My wife after having kids 2 years apart refused any form of sex.. My relief was masturbation.. After a while I started seeing other women and feeling so much better having real sex again.. Sex ls very important too a happy marriage.. Make sex fun just don’t lay there have fun and enjoy it with each other… ENJOY. MORE. SEX for a GREAT MARRIAGE…
I am 21 i married who i thought was gonna spend the rest of my life with at 19.
Day in and day out i loved my husband with everything i had gave everything for him and me being so in love with him i didn’t see the lies the cheating or the mental abuse… We’ve been separated sense July now and i was the best decision that I could have made for myself it hurt and it still does but it does get easier and I have taken the steps to start finding myself again I’m finding out what I like because I lost all of those things and that relationship I came out of it with I don’t know what I’m going to do aspect. I will never let myself go through those things ever again and I know exactly what to look for now it’s part of growing
Good for you Girl Well done Im so glad you didnt hang around hoping and waiting wasting your life like some people do and not having Kids with him means you are free of him You now have a whole new life ahead of you I Wish you all much Happiness
What is the definition of a bad marriage? Is it when one is passing through some challenging situations in marriage? Life will always throw some surprises at us but that does not mean that the marriage is bad. Will you resign from your place of work because you are passing through some challenging times. If no , then I will say that marriage is a work, you have to work at it to make it work. There is no bad Marriage but bad people. If the husband and the wife can pray together, talk together and play together then I believe bad marriage will be turned to a good one. Divorce is not good!
So if the other person beats me up is that not defined as a bad marriage? Belittles me and is so mentally abusive and manipulate that they try and control everything in my life? Sometimes divorce is the only option.
Definition of a bad marriage: irreconcilable differences that make everyone miserable. Yeah, I’d leave a job if that was happening. There’s a very big difference between having challenges that you can work through together and just realising that you aren’t a good fit anymore.
No as they described its how that partner treats you on a regular basis people! Or could be abusive could be alot of things. People need to stop preaching the Bible, the Bible doesn’t tell you to allow yourself to be mistreated!