Imagine living through the Great Depression. Also World War II,l and the Civil Rights Movement. Witnessing the election of the first African-American president of the United States.
That’s exactly what Zelmyra and Herbert Fisher experienced during their remarkable lives together.
In fact, President Obama even sent them a signed commendation in 2010, recognizing their incredible milestone.
Their journey began on May 13, 1924, when they said “I do”. In 2008, they officially secured the record after 84 years of marriage.
In today’s world, marriages often struggle to endure.
But their story feels almost impossible. Studies show that 41% of first marriages, 60% of second marriages, and 73% of third marriages end in divorce.
Yet, Zelmyra and Herbert stood the test of time. What was their secret to such a long and loving union?
Timeless Wisdom from a Record-Breaking Marriage
In an interview, Zelmyra and Herbert shared their simple yet profound advice for building a lasting marriage. Here are their answers:
1. What made you realize you could spend your lives together? Were you ever scared?
“With each passing day, our relationship grew stronger and more secure. Divorce was NEVER an option or even a thought.”
2. How did you know your spouse was ‘the one’?
“We grew up as best friends before we got married. A friend is for life, and our marriage lasted a lifetime.”
3. Is there anything you would do differently after 80+ years of marriage?
“Not a single thing. There’s no secret—just do what’s needed for each other and your family.”
4. What’s your advice for someone searching for their perfect match?
Zelmyra: “Mine was just around the corner! Keep the faith—when you meet them, you’ll know.”
5. What’s the best marriage advice you ever received?
“Respect, support, and communicate with each other. Be faithful, honest, and true. Love each other with all your heart.”
6. What makes a great spouse?
Zelmyra: “A hard worker and a good provider. The 1920s were tough, but Herbert always wanted the best for us. I married a good man!”
7. What’s your best Valentine’s Day memory?
Zelmyra: “Herbert surprised me by cooking dinner. He’s a very good cook! Seeing the look on my face made his day.”
8. How did you grow as individuals without growing apart?
“Like planting seeds and harvesting crops, we celebrated our accomplishments together. We are individuals, but stronger as a team.”
9. What’s your fondest memory from your 85-year marriage?
“Our legacy: 5 children, 10 grandchildren, 9 great-grandchildren, and 1 great-great-grandchild.”
10. Does communication get easier over time?
“Yes. With the children grown, we enjoy quiet moments together, whether on the porch or in our rocking chairs.”
11. How did you cope with being physically separated?
Herbert: “When Zelmyra was hospitalized with our fifth child, it was the hardest time of my life. Her mother helped me, or I would have lost my mind.”
12. What’s the most important reminder after a tough day in marriage?
“Marriage is not a contest. You’re on the same team, so work together to win.”
13. Is fighting ever important?
“Never physically. It’s okay to disagree, but fight for what truly matters. Learn to bend, not break.”
14. What’s the one thing that binds you above all else?
“Our faith in God. Marriage is a commitment to the Lord. We pray with and for each other every day.”
A Love That Endured the Ages
Zelmyra and Herbert’s marriage is nothing short of inspiring. Even after 87 years together, they remained as in love as the day they said their vows.
Herbert passed away in 2011 at the age of 105, and Zelmyra followed in 2013 at the same age. Their story proves that true love and lifelong commitment are possible.
Their advice is a treasure.
Reminding us that respect, faith, and teamwork are the foundation of a lasting marriage.
If their wisdom touched your heart, share this story with your friends.
Everyone could use a little inspiration from a love like theirs.
