Scissoring Explained
Scissoring is a sexual position where two partners sit facing each other and cross their legs so their genitals come into contact. The name comes from the resemblance to two open scissors crossing at their blades, with each partner’s legs mimicking the blades.
Scissoring, also known as tribbing, is often associated with clitoral stimulation between two people assigned female at birth, but anyone — regardless of their genitals, gender identity, or sexual orientation — can enjoy it.
How Does Scissoring Work?
In the classic scissoring position, both partners spread their legs to connect their genitals. Usually, one lies on their back while the other rests on their side. They then move their hips, rubbing their genitals together. Penetration is possible if one partner inserts their penis or a sex toy into the other’s vagina or anus. Vibrators can also be incorporated for extra stimulation.
There is also a variation called upright scissoring, where one partner sits upright with legs open while the other partner lies down and slides their hips forward to achieve genital contact. This version gives the sitting partner more stability and control over their movements for enhanced pleasure.
Scissoring vs. Tribadism
Tribadism, or tribbing, describes any sexual act where two people rub their genitals together. Scissoring is a specific form of tribbing that includes crossing the legs. However, these terms are often used interchangeably today, and the concept of scissoring has expanded to include different gender combinations and types of genitals.
Some related positions, often called tribbing or scissoring even without crossing the legs, include:
- Missionary scissor: One partner lies on their back with legs apart while the other positions themselves between their partner’s legs to bring genitals into contact.
- Genitals-to-thighs: One partner sits or lies down while the other straddles their thighs, rubbing their genitals against the thigh for stimulation. Rubbing against the hips, stomach, or butt is another variation.
What Does Scissoring Feel Like?
Scissoring can deliver a highly stimulating and sensual experience. The unique friction of rubbing genitals against a partner’s feels quite different from using fingers or the mouth. The movements and pressure can be adjusted to produce different sensations, and adding sex toys can amplify pleasure.
Common Myths About Scissoring
One widespread myth is that scissoring only happens between women. In reality, people of any gender combination can engage in scissoring, including those with penises — and it can even involve penetration. What defines scissoring is the act of rubbing genitals or other body parts together, not the partners’ sex.
Another myth is that scissoring is completely risk-free when it comes to sexually transmitted diseases (STDs). Even without penetration, STDs can still be transmitted through genital contact.
How to Practice Scissoring Safely
To lower the risk of STDs, you can use a dental dam or plastic wrap, though they are not 100% protective. If penetration is involved, a condom should be used for both STD prevention and contraception. Also, use condoms on sex toys and wash them thoroughly after use. The safest route is to stay in a monogamous relationship where both partners are tested and free of infections.
Physically, scissoring can be challenging because it requires moderate flexibility and engages muscles you might not typically use. Take things slowly to prevent muscle strain.
Because scissoring involves significant skin-to-skin contact, friction can sometimes lead to irritation or chafing. Lubricant can reduce friction and increase comfort and pleasure.
As with any sexual activity, enthusiastic consent is essential. Make sure both you and your partner are comfortable and willing before engaging.
Key Takeaways
Scissoring, sometimes called tribbing, is a way for people of any gender to experience pleasure by rubbing genitals together, without relying on penetration or oral sex. It can be physically demanding, so moderate fitness helps, and safe-sex practices are important to lower STD risk. If penetration is involved, using condoms helps prevent both infection and unwanted pregnancy.
