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Letter in hand, Brittaney Lynn Shane of Huntsville, Alabama, recounts her relentless efforts to be a good girlfriend, only to face perpetual dissatisfaction from her partner. Despite bending over backward, her dedication was never sufficient.
When he ultimately ended the relationship, Brittaney was left shattered. However, the devastation transformed into determination, fueling her decision to address the situation head-on.
Brittaney, influenced by her boyfriend’s critical remarks, maintained short hair as he preferred.
She felt embarrassed after dyeing her hair red and quickly reverted to blonde. His complaints about minimal makeup led her to stop wearing it, despite just using winged eyeliner and mascara.
Despite Brittaney’s efforts to please her boyfriend by removing her piercings, avoiding tattoos, and concealing her stretch marks, his criticism persisted. His focus shifted to her weight, leading her to restrict her eating, all in vain.
In her poignant open letter, Brittaney bravely recounts her ex’s relentless criticism, eroding her self-assurance. Ultimately, he left her for a younger, more malleable partner, mirroring his attempts to control her.
“For almost two years you had me convinced that you were out of my league and that I just wasn’t good enough the way I was. I did everything I could to be what you wanted. I did everything you told me to do. It still wasn’t good enough. You blamed me too.” Brittany recalled.
She added: “You weren’t out of my league. I was out of yours. I wasn’t the one who wasn’t good enough for you. You were the one who wasn’t good enough for me. You couldn’t accept me for who I was. When I took you the way you were. Your many many many flaws and everything else that was there. The only time I ever asked you to change was when I asked you to show me you actually cared about me. Which you never did.”
Her ultimate revenge surpassed a mere open letter or social media call-out. It was far more satisfying and fulfilling.
Brittaney reclaimed her identity, prioritizing her happiness and embracing her true self. Months later, she confidently showcased her vibrant, shoulder-length, red hair.
After regaining her confidence, Brittaney embraced makeup and got a new tattoo, proudly accepting her stretch marks. At a content weight of 135 pounds, she enjoys eating without restrictions, prioritizing her happiness and well-being.
“I finally see myself looking back at me when I look in the mirror. Not the girl you had created. You have your life. Your new love. Your side of our story. But you no longer have me. Not in any way, shape, or form,” she said.
“It’s so hard for me to come out about this and admit that I became so vulnerable because of one guy. Something I always said would never happen,” Brittaney added. “It’s humiliating to even think about how low I got. But what gives me the guts to come out about this is the fact that I overcame it and I’m finally back to who I really am.”
Through her courageous and candid revelation, Brittaney Lynn Shane imparts a valuable lesson: a nourishing relationship should uplift, not diminish. Demeaning and destabilizing behaviors have no place in a healthy partnership; it is crucial to reject such toxic control.
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