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Partner addiction can be charming, but it’s important to maintain balance. Love can be consuming, leading to destruction. Our natural social instincts make us dependent, but we must avoid determining our self-worth based on our relationships.
Avoid being a romance addict by having a life outside your relationship. Dial things back if you find yourself guilty of the signs of dependency and partner addiction in your relationship.
1. You engage in frequent sexual activities in inappropriate places.
An active sex life is beneficial for a relationship, but engaging in sexual acts in inappropriate settings can be a sign of relationship addiction.
2. You feel almost unable to be separated from your partner, even virtually.
Feeling lost without your partner? Your first instinct is to reach out as if you’re helpless without them.
3. Your relationship is constantly causing you financial strain.
Being financially responsible is crucial. It’s not wise to go broke for a relationship. Living beyond means is unsustainable. Prioritize smart decisions over lavish gifts, especially if you can’t afford them.
4. You seek your partner for companionship whenever boredom strikes, in a compulsive manner.
Instead of seeking support from friends, siblings, or parents, some people rely solely on their partners for emotional fulfillment. While some individuals find solace in hobbies, books, or movies, they do not always turn to their partners to fill the void.
5. You believe that being in a relationship is necessary for your happiness.
Your happiness solely hinges on being in a relationship. The mere thought of losing your partner devastates you, and you fear your life would fall apart if you ever separated.
6. The fear of solitude is present within you.
While being alone and experiencing loneliness are different, it’s common to fear the latter. Yet, fearing being alone entirely is different, as we all need to be comfortable with solitude to some degree.
7. The sense of losing a significant part of oneself is experienced when apart.
Your partner is an extension of you, but don’t let their absence break you. It’s okay to miss them but don’t let it incapacitate you.
8. You attach great importance to the validation of your partner.
Relying solely on your partner’s opinion is unhealthy for your relationship. Avoid being overly dependent and seek advice from others.
9. The mere thought of a breakup with your partner triggers anxiety attacks.
Relying on your partner for your mental stability can lead to paranoia and self-inflicted harm.
10. You provoke unnecessary arguments to seek attention from your partner.
You constantly crave your partner’s attention and resort to cheap tactics to get noticed. Starting fake fights is one way to divert their attention toward you.
11. You exhibit addict-like traits towards your partner.
Your behavior towards your partner resembles that of a drug addict towards cocaine – experiencing withdrawal symptoms and feeling unable to function without them.
12. You allow him to do as he pleases with you in the hope of earning more love from him.
You comply with your partner’s sexual advances despite not being in the mood, hoping to earn their love. You compromise your self-respect to please them.
13. If you allocate all your time to the relationship, other areas of your life may suffer due to neglect.
Your profession is at risk, your friendships have suffered, and you’ve severed important connections with your family. This is all due to your excessive investment of time and energy into a relationship that’s gradually undermining your life.
Do any of these partner addiction signs resonate with your current situation? Share your thoughts in the comments below!
What if I like sex in what would probably be considered inappropriate places. That doesn’t mean I’m addicted to my partner. It just means I’m a bit on the wild side.
Yes I seek my partner out for companionship. He’s really cool and has a lot of interesting things to talk about. Not to mention I really love the guy.
Yes the thought of losing my husband devastates me. He has stage 3 lung cancer so the thought of losing him makes it very hard to breath sometimes.
My “friends” are all fake anyway and my so called “family” wants nothing to do with me anyway so I’m good with it being just me & my man. Does that make me an addict to him? I’m ok with it if it does because there’s a lot worse things in life I could be addicted to and he is the healthiest of them all. At least I won’t get a DUI for driving him crazy. Maybe a spanking. But one can only hope.
I totally agree with most of these. Wish I read this a lot earlier. As my ex is just one of those people that no matter how much you give in or how much time you give them, it’s never enough for them.
Sounds like your in love. I been married for 40 years and you have basically described what it is to be happily married. I say our of 13 thing 2 we don’t do. That would be 13 &10. we are not going to extreme’s with this, but love is caring all the way for each other as if you are one.