A frenemy is not your ordinary friend. While true friends stand by us, some are only concerned with their interests. If you’re unsure about your friends, this article reveals ten signs indicating their authenticity.
1. They only reach out for favors
A true friend enjoys your company and checks on you without ulterior motives. A fake friend only contacts you for favors or when they’re lonely.
2. They talk only about themselves
A true friend shows genuine interest in your life, asking about work, family, and hobbies. Fake friends only focus on themselves and ignore your world.
3. They try to put you down
A true friend uplifts and values you, while a fake friend criticizes and diminishes you. Genuine friends celebrate your successes, while false friends nitpick and mock your appearance.
4. Your “friend” gossips about you with other friends
A true friend respects your privacy, keeps secrets, and avoids gossip. Fake friends spread rumors to boost themselves at your expense.
5. They cancel plans at the last minute
A true friend respects plans, communicates delays, and rarely cancels. A fake friend is unreliable, frequently late, and cancels without explanation.
6. They don’t support your goals
A true friend supports and believes in you, while a fake friend discourages and undermines your abilities.
7. They are your “friend” when it’s convenient for them
A true friend supports you through ups and downs, while a fake friend only shows up when they want something from you.
8. Your frenemy is competing with you
A true friend celebrates your success, while a fake friend is envious and tries to undermine you, sowing self-doubt and negativity.
9. They want to change you
A true friend accepts you, flaws and all, without trying to change you. In contrast, a fake friend constantly pressures you to alter yourself, criticize your weight, appearance, and style, and never be satisfied with who you are.
10. You feel bad for yourself after being with them
A good friend uplift supports, and brings laughter. If someone makes you feel bad about yourself, they’re not a true friend. Fake friends criticize and judge, fostering insecurity.
Is your friend your frenemy? How do you feel about your friendship? Let us know in the comments below.