Our brain is very complex. Sometimes, it acts as self-destructive, and we cannot understand it. How? Well, for a starter… Have you ever thought about how can a human being direct all his attention to another human being, even “forgetting” himself? According to Dr. Femke Buisman-Pijlman, Ph.D., an expert researcher at the University of Adelaide in Australia, falling in love can feel the same as getting drugged.
“When you [first] fall in love, you can feel ecstatic like with initial drug or alcohol use,” says Buisman-Pijlman. She goes on to add, “When the thrill of new love subsides, you could be left with a psychological dependence where you think you need the other person.”
Viral Strange will list 9 signs that might possibly tell if you are addicted to your partner:
1. You are being obsessed with your partner’s whereabouts
You keep trying to figure out where your partner is to the point of feeling miserable unless you fully know about their activities.
2. Sex during inappropriate times
It’s not a problem if you are always having sex. The problem is where you’re having sex in the most inappropriate places and during the inappropriate moments.
3. You break your own rules and boundaries in your relationship
Being addicted to your partner also means you bend your own rules, just for the sake of it. If you cannot respect your own boundaries, your better judgment is being compromised.
4. Spending too much cash on your relationship
Spending money is another part of being addicted. You won’t sustain a good life, let alone the relationship, by being financially irresponsible.
5. You cannot be happy without your partner
A strong sign of addiction is not being able to be happy without your partner. You don’t find anything else interesting unless you’re doing it with/or in the presence of your partner. It’s not bad doing nice stuff with your lover, but try to fulfill your daily life with activities that make YOU happy.
6. Your self-worth depends on your relationship
Love yourself. Embrace yourself. Be proud of yourself – in or out of a relationship with someone else. No one should affect your self-worth.
7. You only feel alive with your partner
It’s not bad to feel alive with your partner; It’s bad when it happens only when you’re with them.
8. You’re afraid of being alone
If you’re not comfortable being alone, you won’t be in a relationship. The feeling of being afraid you’ll be alone will make you dependent on the relationship, even in the worst scenarios.
9. Neglecting your other responsibilities
Being addicted to your partner and relationship means neglecting all the other responsibilities in your life because your relationship takes the most time of your day. Start keeping a balance!
Have you ever been in any of these situations in your relationship? Let us know your story in the comments!